"Hot" list. Time can heal those who are willing to help themselves. No one can truly empathize. Often, the only person who can pull themselves out of the quagmire is oneself. Any seeking of comfort will not lead to growth. Hangovers, overeating, traveling, or even chatting with friends will only keep us complacent in our self-righteous cocoon for a long time. Growth is actually a very difficult self-reflection. You must abandon all the pretty words you say to others and to yourself, and face your incompetence and flaws, even being broken, torn apart, and overturning all previous beliefs and knowledge to reassemble. The most perfect state is not that you never make mistakes, but that you never give up on growing! Time and experience are just accompaniments, supporting you to become better and better, it's your strong will, cultivation, conduct, and constant reflection and correction.