# Four Truths About Marriage

**First**, you don't need to solve every problem in marriage—learn to coexist with problems.
As long as you don't cross the line, don't sweat the small stuff, and both give a little ground, life will flow smoothly.

**Second**, never make any decisions when you're angry.
90% of decisions made in anger will lead to regret.
Even the best relationships have 200 impulses to divorce throughout a lifetime.
As long as your smiles outnumber your tears, you've loved the right person.

**Third**, stop trying to change your partner—learn to influence them instead.
Change is temporary, influence lasts a lifetime.
Compatible values matter, but growing together after marriage matters even more.

**Fourth**, if you want marriage to be less exhausting, lower your expectations of yourself.
Expect less, demand less, and don't indulge your emotions.
No one is naturally made to fit you perfectly.
Marriage isn't scary—if you put in the effort, you can make it work.